I learnt that contrary to popular opinion, forgiveness does not solve it all. Though a very strong
spiritual cleansing virtue, it does not have the added abilty to totaly erase the indelible. Some hurts
and pains are so deep that the victims can forgive but alas, they cannot forget. The pain still lives with
them.
If I had learnt earlier in life to think before I speak, if I had learnt at an early age to check on those
actions before taking them, I guess I could have spared myself and those close and dear to me so much
pain, hurt and sorrows. If I had the hind sight of looking before leaping then, maybe some wild and
spontaneous and quite unguided decisions I made would have died just at the stage of thought.
Only God has the power to forgive and forget. Hebrew 8.12, Micah 7:19, Isaiah 43:25
“… your sins I will remember no more ..
But men do not forget.
Now, I can make sense of my father’s advice to cut loose any supposed friends of mine who are always
saying that they are sorry. It means they make many mistakes and one day, they will make one that ‘I am
sorry’ won’t correct. By then, you may have a wound, hurt or experience that all the apologies and your
sincere forgiveness cannot erase.
I have learnt to Think first, watch closely, before I act. But I am encouraged with the knowledge that it is
never too late to learn
